Welcome to my foray into the blogging world. I don't promise to be your source for political and social commentary, but I will always endeavour to be entertaining, charming and witty (and by witty, you may also want to read that as sarcastic . . . I sometimes mix the two up).
You will see a mix of poems and/or song lyrics, my skewed little musings on life, the odd rant or two, and hopefully I can pass along some inspirational pieces – either from my own personal experiences or from those who inspire me.
I will try not to work Bruce Springsteen into everything I write, though it will be difficult as he does impact a large part of my waking world as well as a good portion of my dream world.
Enjoy. Be kind. Come back often and visit.
Wednesday, 3 June 2015
Online dating: the same as the old dating
My initial observation is that online dating is quite similar to the old-fashioned, pre-Internet style of dating. Everyone you like doesn't like you and the ones who do like, poke, favourite and wink at you would never crack your top 100.
I have "absolutely no smokers" on my profile, so no, 61-year-old, daily smoking farmer from Elmvale, I don't want to meet you at Starbucks. I'm not trying to be disrespectful, but I don't have patience for those who don't even read my profile.
And there seem to be many of those. Similar to the "Hello dear one. I'm a Nigerian prince with a bucket load of money to give you" emails, there is an online dating version of these phishing message. I receive awkwardly worded form letter type messages on a regular basis – especially on one particular dating site. Dating tip #1 for newbies: Don't respond to any people who have not included anything in their message indicating they have read your profile.
The other common "phishing" message comes from those who "only have a few hours left on their account" and know they have finally find their true love in you!
<Cough, bullshit, you trolling dink>
Another thing I find interesting are those who message you from another country. I'm not sure what their purpose is . . . or maybe I do, and just choose not respond. I did reply to a fellow from Milwaukee who had obviously read my profile and seemed interesting. I thanked him for his message and noted that I was looking for someone a bit closer geographically. I also asked, for curiosity sake, why he reached out to someone who lived quite a ways from him. He responded that if there is a connection, distance shouldn't matter. It was a nice answer but I would hope I could find a connection with someone nearby before reaching out internationally.
Some of the dating sites want you to answer a myriad of questions in order to "match" you better. I've answered over 500 questions on one site that vary from "how many times a day do you brush your teeth" to "do you like being humiliated during sex?" Define humiliation? I'm out here in the online dating world, so I suppose I'm open to anything.
I've read some great profiles which have prompted me to tweak mine a bit. I've also joined another site which piqued my interest with its expanded orientation choices. I am now "heteroflexible." I must add that while it has widened the dating pool quite considerably with all these extra swimmers, it has made the gathering and research a bit more taxing. I am not a great decision-maker to begin with, so providing me with more choice makes my brain hurt.
But, it's a good hurt and I will continue on this adventure.
And to all those who couldn't be bothered to respond to my cleverly crafted, fun and witty emails: it's your loss. You're the one missing out on something great . . . me.